Feelings....nothing more than feelings.... I think the worst thing anyone could say to another human being is, "You shouldn't feel that way." "You shouldn't act that way," "you shouldn't dress that way," and "you should get out of my way" are acceptable suggestions when the appropriate opportunity strikes; however, feelings are highly personal, and I think when you encourage someone to put the kibosh on hers, you could very well be contributing to her emotional downfall. It boils down to sensitivity - something our society seems to lack these days. Think about it: when we ask, "how are you?" we don't really expect a response. On the rare occasion we get one, we're caught off guard. Personally, I never tell anyone how I'm really doing, mainly because I so seldom get the chance to do so, and besides I'm not one to open up too much. They don't call me "Close to the Vest Newman" for nothing (nobody calls me that - I'm just making stuff up at this point). Anyhow, I think the vast majority of us could do with some serious sensitivity training - all the 'do unto others' ideals we were taught in Sunday School yet have forgotten over time. If we really paused before speaking and attempted to place ourselves in another's position, we'd a) avoid hurting someone, and b) avoid making a complete and utter ass out of ourselves. Of course, with that being said, I think many of us have become highly sensitive to things that simply don't matter in the grand scheme of things. They include but are not limited to: -politics -religion -money -celebrities -sports -music As far as sensitivity goes, the only things we should be sensitive about are: -family -children in need -the ill and the old -animals -insuring everyone gets an equal chance no matter his race, culture, gender, or sexual orientation Put yourself in someone else's shoes, Brother - you've no idea what they may be going through. Think before you speak. Listen more than you speak. And if you're one of the quiet, sensitive ones who feels as if you may absolutely lose your shit at some point, do it and do it in a big way. Get it out. Make it one of the epic events of your life. Make it so that generations to follow will tell stories of 'The time Aunt Sheila lost it and went off on everyone at Christmas'. I personally can't wait to reach the point in which I'll actually throw a drink in someone's face.