Thursday, August 12, 2010

Who's Better?

During last week’s First Style Fashion Camp, I caught the tail-end of a very serious discussion amongst my little fashionistas. “Who’s better – Taylor Swift or Selena Gomez?” The debate lasted well past snack time, and I couldn’t help but chuckle to myself at the very question – who’s better? Not who’s more talented? Not who’s prettier? Simply, who’s better?

My good Baptist upbringing taught me to believe that in God’s eyes, we’re equal. Schmuck A is no better than Schmuck B. Yet our image-conscious society convinces us otherwise. Certain girls with certain attributes certainly seem to make out like bandits compared to their ‘less-attributed’ counterparts. Certain boys with certain toys are regarded a bit higher than their toyless buddies. Perhaps if we removed our blinders and actually tried to see through the eyes of God, we’d be a little less critical and a lot more loving.

Now, this may sound crazy coming from an image consultant, but my philosophy is this: it doesn’t matter how shiny your shoes are, if you are critical – of yourself and of others – you really won’t be happy. If you’re too focused on the outward without paying diligent attention to the inward, you’ll struggle. And life, my friends, should never be a struggle. Challenging at times – yes, but we should never feel put-upon, threatened, or worried about certain things that just don’t matter. A higher power protects us and looks after us…but we must be willing to allow this higher power to do so.

So to answer the question who’s better?, let me just say this….we all have different talents, tastes, dreams, and desires. None are better than those of anyone else. We are all the same. We all have something positive to contribute. If we all recognize this, our world will be a much better place.

Beth Newman
Image Consultant/Life Coach
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